Kids, Laughs

Sisters say what? (Vol. 10)

March 7, 2024


It’s been a minute since I cleared the Notes app on my phone and shared the memorable nuggets from the mouths of my babes. Here are some recents from the sissies.

“We’re working on compound words and contraptions.” – Sloppy Joan

“If I was death-spert I would just hide longer. But only if I was super, really death-spert.” – Sloppy Joan

“That is in-say-ying!” – Sloppy Joan


“That was the doctor’s appointment when they asked me about pubeder.” – Spike

“Any changes to your medical history?” – Doctor 
“My mom’s peeling from Turks and Caicos.” – Sloppy Joan 


“Their parents are probably so proud of them!” – Sloppy Joan after the AJR concert

“Ants weigh less than an inch.” – Sloppy Joan


“I think he got tiggers.” – Sloppy Joan, meaning chiggers

“My butt has been on so many toilets.” – Sloppy Joan


“Find a clean one. That’s my motto in public bathrooms.” – Sloppy Joan  

Husband comes home to Sloppy Joan playing her electric bass hooked up to the amp in the garage.
“Whatcha doin’?” – husband
“Makin’ some money!” – Sloppy Joan


“I can’t tell if he’s an old man or a dad.” – Sloppy Joan

“I might have gotten a 2-second butt rash, I think!” – Sloppy Joan


“I hope I get a good husband with good babies.” – Sloppy Joan

“We’ll meet you at Crackle Barrel” – Sloppy Joan

“What if he just ignored you because he thought you were a boomer?” – Sloppy Joan


“Yeah, the tortoises at the zoo are always doing it.” – Me
“Wait … I thought they were giving each other a ride.” – Spike

“I’m not very religious but his freckles and cross necklace just do something for me.” – Spike, crushin’

“These boots are too small.” – Spike
“It’s OK. You’ll get through it. Like the time I wore a bra to school.” – Sloppy Joan

“I haven’t had a Pepsi in a hot second. Like literally just a few seconds.” – Sloppy Joan

“Your breath stinks.” – Spike to JoJo before basketball practice
“It’s OK. It’s basketball, it’ll smell like sweat soon.” – Sloppy Joan

“She was born on Valentine’s Day.” – Me, sharing that friends welcomed a grandbaby on Feb. 14.
“Ohhhhhh … She’s gonna love sooo many people!” – Sloppy Joan

“Op, tomorrow’s spring 1st.” – Sloppy Joan

“I thought that bunny was laying babies.” – Spike


“The Office is like an adult show and a kid show combined, because it’s really funny, but also, they’re working.” – Sloppy Joan

“I’m so glad we aren’t super rich or anything cuz then I’d have to dress all fancy and look all nice. Plus, I couldn’t fart.” – Sloppy Joan

“I’m not getting a second load.” – Sloppy Joan
“You mean a refill?” – JoJo

“Aw, shoot! It’s the real Slim Shady.” – Me
“Mom, it’s Eminem.” – JoJo (annoyed)

“He’s the best drumist.” – Sloppy Joan

“I opened my belly button, the water ran into it, I folded the skin and when I lifted it, the water was gone!” – Sloppy Joan
“Where did it go?” – Me
“Into my belly. I drank through my belly button.” – Sloppy Joan
“Wow.” – Me
“Does your belly button ever get hungry?” – Sloppy Joan

“I left you a scent packet.” – Sloppy Joan, after tooting in my car

“We played zombie.apicklelips.” – Sloppy Joan

“If I wanna keep one good one I gotta stop farting.” – Sloppy Joan, referring to dating/marriage

“Maya Angelou was born in Ar-Kansas.” – Sloppy Joan
“Where?” – Me
“Ar-Kansas.” – Sloppy Joan
“Oh, Arkansas?” – Me 
“I guess!” – Sloppy Joan

“We’re going to The Empathy.” – Sloppy Joan, the day of her field trip to the Embassy

Pages

Am I crazy, or is everybody reading?

January 23, 2024


Beginning in the stale armpit that was COVID times, I started noticing some trends with my girlfriends. Yes, more drinking. Yes, more experimenting with facial hair removal and dry brushing (whatever the hell that does aside from feeling like a thousand baby shark bites).  But also, so much reading!

Proof that good things did, in fact, come out of that most-depressing viral dumpster fire, so many book clubs and Goodreads profiles were born during and immediately following the height of the pandemic. It was a literary boom bred of boredom and a burning fear the world might end altogether, and, turns out, against all odds, the two make beautiful babies!

Why the rebirth of books?

Every time I chat these days, the conversation comes around to what we’re reading. If I may be so bold as to float a hypothesis into the world wide abyss, I think that, either 1) I wasn’t paying attention to my book-savvy circle, or 2)after a slight break, people are craving deep, rich, heart-melting stories they can get lost in again. There was a brief departure for full-time trolling and scrolling social media, because, sure, 15-second videos in rapid succession are great. But at some point, the soul needs something more satisfying. It needs [insert romance, a thrill, mystery, intrigue, inspiration, instructions, sadness, new ideas to ponder, heartbreak, lust, disgust, beauty].


Now, we have to give credit where credit is due. Whether you loved it, loathed it or loathed yourself for loving it, I know many a reclaimed reader who credits their renewed library card to Colleen Hoover’s twisty love triangle “Verity.” And I’m not here to talk about it. (But did you read the bonus chapter?) I’m only here to say how happy I am for all of us that books, book clubs and book loving is back, louder and prouder than ever.

The pages I love

In the spirit of the Readaissance, I packaged up a list of my all-time favorites, in case you’re looking to add to your stack.

SCARY / SUSPENSEFUL

Sharp Objects
by Gillian Flynn
(The last few pages of this book still haunt me.)

A Slow Fire Burning
by Paula Hawkins

The Push
by Ashley Audrain
(Find someone else whose read it and let debates over the ending ensue.)

NON-FICTION / SELF-IMPROVEMENT

On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft
by Stephen King

Daring Greatly
by Brene Brown

Rising Strong
by Brene Brown

Braving the Wilderness
by Brene Brown

A turd
by Brene Brown
(Just kidding. But, for real though, if anyone could make the topic enlightening …)

Big Magic
by Elizabeth Gilbert

Carry on, Warrior
By Glennon Doyle

Present over Perfect
by Shauna Niequist

Three Women
by Lisa Taddeo


FICTION

Looking for Alaska
by John Green

The Shack
by William P. Young

The Great Alone
by Kristin Hannah

Small Great Things
by Jodi Picoult

Three Junes
by Julia Glass

MEMOIR / ESSAYS / AUTOBIOGRAPHY

Truth & Beauty
by Ann Patchett

Bossypants
by Tina Fey

Yes, Please!
Amy Poehler

The Wreckage of My Presence
by Casey Wilson

The Anthropocene Reviewed
John Green

Yearbook
by Seth Rogan
(You have to go audiobook here.)

Bomb Shelter
by Mary Laura Philpott


SPORTY

Born to Run
by Christopher McDougall

Finding Ultra
by Rich Roll


FOR THE FAM

Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls
by Elena Favilli and Francesca Cavallo

Let me know what I’m missing! The only thing I love more than reading a good book is hearing about the good books other people read and getting excited to read them.

Kids, Thoughts

The Christmas gift that made me cry

January 2, 2024

By the grace of Amazon, we’ve come out on the other side of Christmas once again. I don’t know about you, but I’m in the phase where I’m freebasing sucrose, on a strict diet of stale sugar cookies and Emergen-C®.

The day of giving is still close enough that, when you run into people, the first thing they ask is, “Did you have a nice Christmas?” And my answer is, of course we did! This is because, much like the agonizing process that brought our children into the world, against all odds, mothers everywhere have already magically shed the angst from the relentless grind of merry-making we disproportionally shoulder. We can look our friends and co-workers in the eyes and actually mean it when we wax poetic about the joy and looks on their sweet faces as they ripped into package after package, all of us concussed by the charm of their fleeting gratitude.

Gone are the tears from back-breaking gift wrapping sessions crammed into playdate windows. Banished are the pangs of disgust over jarring grocery receipts and factoring peanut allergies into holiday party treats and rolling the dice on first-time dishes for family gatherings. Tallying who got what and elves who didn’t move and empty tape dispensers and White Elephants and Secret Santas and “Oh, Mom, I forgot …”s, all pests of the past now.

Shifting from stuff

Particularly in recent years, we’ve focused on experiences over things, in an attempt to open the girls’ eyes to the gifts you can’t wrap–the vibration of live music, the vastness of mountain summits and coastal shores. The transition has rejuvenated my commitment to Christmas.

While no one appreciates the magical anticipation unique to Santa’s light more than me, I also try to emphasize the benevolent buzz of giving over the fleeting, materialistic high of getting. One of my favorite traditions, and I’m confident the chicks would agree, is our annual Day-o-Treats.

We spend a few nights creating confections, varying combinations of nuts and melted chocolate and butterscotch. We blast my expertly curated Christmas playlist and lean into the mess and marathon of dipping, freezing and packaging. “It’s totally worth it,” JoJo will remind me at least a few times, as I scrape dried candy coating cocoa off the countertops and rotate parchment paper-lined pans in the garage.

Then, typically on the first day of Christmas Break, we load up boxes of sweets, blast the same jolly Dolly-heavy playlist and drive around surprising friends with boxes of holiday treats. I let the chicks choose our targets. This year, it took us from 10:30 a.m. to 5:30 p.m. to hit all the houses. (And Santa covers the whole world in one night!)

As we pulled out of the last driveway and through the neighborhood ablaze in light displays, the timers ticked on in the early darkness of winter, I sighed, exhausted. “Totally worth it,” JoJo reminded me again. And I saw a flash–one I see quite often these days–of my oldest girl inching toward a maturity I’ve long fostered and feared. With every passing Christmas, she helps more, and gets lost in less. It’s a transition as expected and heart-breaking as any cruel side effect of aging children.

The gift that made me cry

Somewhere toward the end of our predawn Christmas unboxing, my JoJo passed me a handmade gift. “It’s from me and Spike,” she said. It was a large glass jar, draped in a soft flannel fabric, tied closed with twine and a tag that read:

“Here’s a jar of compliments to bring you light when the sun refuses to shine, to settle the sea when it continues to rage, and to remind you how amazing you are when no one else will. Love you!”


I made it to “shine” before the tears came. Maybe it was the lingering effects of seasonal stress which, let’s face it, siphons the life out of you, or exhaustion or my own baited expectations for the day. Maybe it was such how sweet it was. But the thoughtful words and generous gesture made my cocoa mug runneth over.

What the jar really means to me

Instinctually, my first reaction was guilt. I hated the thought that I’d failed to mask my anxiety or shield them from my stress. But in the lazy haze of the nameless days that fall between December 25 and the New Year, I remembered the words of the social science goddess Brene Brown, who constructed the parenting manifesto I have framed on my dresser (mentioned in JoJo and the Case of the First Grade Burdens).

Among other expertly crafted words, it says:

“We will practice courage in our family by showing up, letting ourselves be seen, and honoring vulnerability. We will share our stories of struggle and strength. There will always be room in our home for both.
We will teach you compassion by practicing compassion with ourselves first; then with each other. We will set and respect boundaries; we will honor hard work, hope, and perseverance. Rest and play will be family values, as well as family practices.”

I was reminded of why I framed the pledge in the first place; not only as a north star for me, but also as a visible promise to my girls. Something they could see in plain print. Picking up the framed words helped me shed the guilt and savor the simple beauty of their present.

The handmade gift–the fact that they took the time to fill the container with words of hope and encouragement–isn’t a symptom of their front row seats to my struggles. It’s a symbol that we are raising humans who see people. Who see me. And I love that. I need that.

As parents, more days than not, it feels like we’re just screaming corrections and commands into the wind.

Put your laundry away.

Turn off the screen.

Don’t laugh at words said at someone else’s expense.

Stand up for what’s right.

Stand tall in who you are.

Go high.

Be kind.

Pitch in.

Pick up.

Seize the sunshine.

From the moment they arrive, we start shaping and molding and instructing. And it’s hard to tell if any of it is sticking. So to get this wink of empathy from the two who will take on the world first, feels pretty incredible. And thus, the tears.

I guess what I’m trying to say is, keep going, parents. It’s working.

Happy New Year!

Wanderlust

Yes, we’re back from Ireland – The Cliffs of Moher and more

December 11, 2023


Courtney, you’re alive!
Of course I’m alive.
Well, I mean talk about a cliffhanger!

The comment initiated a six-disc shuffle in my head, not uncommon when I run into people I haven’t seen in some time. On this occasion, however, I had no idea what my friend was referring to. A book club I forgot I was in … shuffle … some trending Tik topic … shuffle … The Golden Bachelor? Sensing I was searching with a faded flashlight, she threw me a rope.

Your blog. Ireland. I was following it and then, poof! You stopped posting. What happened?

Oh my gosh, yes. Thirteen months and a thousand years ago, I had been writing about our trip to Ireland.

I went home and opened the Notes app on my phone. There, in chronological order, were the half-formed, inarticulate receipts outlining the incidents that thwarted the completion of my romantic trip recaps and routine, as it were, in November 2022.

The first order of business here, out of respect for Days 1 through 7 and the sweet sediment that trip left in my soul, is to stoke the lingering embers of my memories and tie up loose ends. So, let’s begin there. 

Ireland, Day 8 – Cliffs of Moher 

On our last full day in Ireland, we decided to drive to the Cliffs of Moher. It took an hour and half, but felt sacrilegious to come to the country and not snap a photo by the infamous rocks.

This is probably a controversial opinion, as documented by a woman who, at the time, was riding the high of a series of enchanting excursions (see posts for Days 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 and 7), but Hank and I were both slightly underwhelmed by the popular attraction, ranked, I might mention here, as the ninth best Natural Wonder of the World. Looking at photos from the day now, more than a year later, sitting in my office chair, those read like the words of an insatiable moron. But I do remember feeling as though our secret had gotten out and hundreds of strangers had showed up to crash our epic vacation.


You have to walk in a single-file line a good distance as you head south along the edge, the direction we started in. (Ironically, we, with a herd of international humans, shuffled like cattle alongside a field of actual cattle. I got a kick out of that.) What you won’t see in pictures, is that the path, worn and weathered by the soles of millions of visitors’ shoes–some more practical selections than others–is punctuated by arbitrary gaps in the fences and barriers bordering the perimeter. These partitions are wallpapered with a collection of messages and, for universal interpretation, illustrations warning pedestrians not to jump and urging them to reach out for help if they’re feeling low. With these public service announcements infiltrating the experience, while completely understandable, it made each break in the boundary wall feel like a siren call. A whisper to step into the margin of danger, if you dare. I looked it up, so you don’t have to; the most recent record indicates that 66 deaths occurred at the cliffs between 1993 and 2017.

Eventually, the borders disappear and there’s nothing between the trillions of cells that make you, you, and the 390-foot drop into the swirling, thrashing Atlantic below.  And maybe that’s the thrill of it. You can’t stand on the brink of such a formidable assassin, awe-inspiring as it may be, and not taste your mortality. The cliffs are astounding in their enormity, unexpected symmetry and allure. But they command respect. And an awareness of your phone at all times.


We walked as far south as we could, and then up the northern path. We snapped too many selfies, windburned and drunk on vacation. It started to sprinkle, which felt so on-brand. We strolled through the gift shops and vendor stalls, like obedient tourists. And then we went in search of something delicious.

We settled on kebabs at a greasy hole in the wall in Ennistymon, where the only employee rang us up and disappeared to fry our chips to order. A pair of young, unsupervised boys came in and asked for sodas. The man made them say “please.” It takes a village. They did so, begrudgingly and darted to the table across the small space, the only one next to an outlet. They clumsily, frantically plugged in their tablets and faded into a digital battleground. I thought of the girls, at home, probably negotiating tablet time of their own. Kids are kids are kids, no matter where you have your kebab.


We drove into a rainbow on our way back to Galway.


That night, we walked to Monroe’s for dinner. Tucked into an intimate pocket that enclosed a pair of two-person tables, I had a warm goat cheese salad that solidified my love affair with the region’s soft dairy. After we ate, we walked back to hear the band and, like the boys and their screen addiction, I was reminded that in every bar, in every corner of the world, some universal experiences hold true. On that particular night, I noted the following:

A group of travelers, who spoke only French, lost their collective minds when the band played “Country Road, Take Me Home,” and I don’t know why, as I sang along, it surprised me so much.

Four girlfriends up from their university for the weekend commandeered the table next to us and, in the cutest British accents, unpacked the nuances standing in the way of one of the girl’s pinning down her crush. Eventually, the girl cried. They comforted her. Women forming and fiercely defending their tribes is ironclad and unequivocally, the best thing ever. Also, they were surrounded by attractive boys their age. I suppose this is how missed opportunities get missed.

“Sweet Caroline” came on and I clutched my heart. Is there any hidden crawlspace on this planet where that song doesn’t hit just the right note?

Day 9 – Dublin

Most of the bars in Galway close around 2 a.m. In the six hours between last call and 8 o’clock Mass, something incredible happens. The streets, peppered with broken glass, food wrappers and over-served twenty-somethings just a short time earlier, are cleared, making way for the good Catholics of and in the area to receive the word of the Lord, sans a single sign of residual debauchery.

Hank and I marveled at the janitorial feat as a priest shook hands with parishioners on the steps of a towering cathedral. It was a brilliant morning, sunny and comfortable. We’d gotten lucky, yet again. We popped in to Aran Island for wool sweaters and gifts that would ship to us weeks after we’d settled back into life as we knew it. We had Murphy’s Ice Cream as a late supplement to breakfast. The Dingle Sea Salt was a triumph. Street performers sang and recited poetry. We strolled and pressed our lips against the cold dessert. Nothing felt familiar, and yet, the ease of the slow morning felt more comfortable than anything.


“Let’s. go to Dublin,” Hank said.

We stopped along the highway for convenience store snacks in preparation for the heightened navigation necessary for the big city. Our last night, we stayed at the adorable Brooks Hotel. Our room was a magnificent space we barely saw.

We walked around Dublin, taking in Trinity College and The Temple Bar. It was crowded in the way capital cities are. What I remember most is our dinner at a small table at Darkey Kelly’s. A bowl of seafood chowder with mussels between us, we sipped our final ciders and heady beers, and I reminded myself to open up every porous part of my being and soak this in. The lively trad music in the adjacent room, the heat of bodies packed into tables and booths, not a disgruntle face among them. Only voices building to recite familiar folk songs.

I love you well today, and I love you more tomorrow.

If you ever loved me, Molly, love me now.

In a kiosk in the Dublin Airport, Hank picked up a calendar featuring the sheep of Ireland. “I was going to try and sneak it, and give it to you for Christmas,” he said. “But that just seems so far away.” The cashier slid it into a parchment paper sack and we went to our gate.

Welcome home

We crossed the ocean and picked our lives back up where we’d left them. Summer ended. The chicks went back to school. Hikes and afternoon toasties gave way to sports physicals and bumper-to-bumper Zoom meetings. There wasn’t anything particularly unique or shocking about the evaporation of our vacation glow. It was expected. Autumn was unfolding as autumn does. We were playing our parental and professional parts, with duties, as assigned. And for a while, everything fit into tidy “before Ireland” and “after Ireland” buckets.

On November 3, I turned 40.

On November 12, Hank and I went to my friend’s wedding. Mom and Dad agreed to keep the girls overnight. Around midnight, the screen on my phone illuminated the room, offending my eyes, powered down and acclimated to the darkness. It was Mom calling. “Don’t panic,” she said. “Dad’s having trouble breathing and there’s an ambulance here to get him.” Hank was already putting his shoes on.

What I didn’t know then–what none of us could have known then– was that we were standing at the precipice of a months-long gauntlet of progressions and setbacks. Uncertainty and altered expectations. Our family as we knew it had reached the end of the well-worn path and protective walls.

You are now entering a time warp

For the sake of brevity and, because the details have been diluted by time and diagnoses, I will say that my dad developed severe health complications after being exposed to pasteurella multocida, a dangerous bacteria found in cats’ mouths. My parents live on a farm, he has dry, cracked skin in the winter, a persistent barn cat nipped at his finger and that simple, seemingly innocuous event forever tilted our family’s axis.

While Dad was initially hospitalized for the infection, he really got into trouble when he aspirated into a Bi-pap machine shortly after being admitted. In the early morning hours, with only my sister at his side, he made the proactive decision to go on a ventilator. I saw him on a Monday and less than 24 hours later he was sedated in the ICU. (If this post isn’t long enough already and you want more details about his stay in critical care, you can check out this post.)

Thus began a strange new relationship with time. Hours in his hospital room crawled by, filled with numbing beeps and extreme temperatures. No one could seem to figure out the thermostat. My sister and I took turns sleeping on the convertible sofa under the window, 30 minutes here, a two-hour run if you were lucky. The buckets  were no longer “before” and “after.” Time was suddenly temperamental and teetering between “best case scenario” and “worst case scenario.” For days we existed in an if-then purgatory, the paralysis of our patriarch’s unstable swings in either direction serving as tools for emotional torture.

The cruel reality of adulting is that the universe doesn’t get an “attention all” memo when a piece of your personal life is swallowing you whole. Outside the hospital walls, nothing stopped, or even mercifully slowed. It was picking up, if anything. We were still signed up to bring in dinner for the basketball team’s home game. The dog needed more heart worm medicine. I was still fully employed. And, as luck would have it, the holidays were coming. It was the happiest time of the year.

My dad woke up. I watched the sunrise on Thanksgiving morning–Mom’s birthday–over the freezing ledge of his new room in the progressive unit. He moved to inpatient rehab at a different facility. It was a depressing place. We were supposed to be happy, but nothing felt light or promising. Shortly after being sent home, Dad had a setback and was readmitted to the hospital. More medical terms to look up. More sparse nights of sleep on the foldout couch. More fickle thermostats.

Christmas came and went. Dad was so out of it. He always made a big breakfast spread before we opened gifts, so we all pitched in to make eggy casseroles and slapped sweet frosting over the  cracks in our nerves. The ball dropped, ushering in 2023. I hung my sheep of Ireland calendar in our closet so I could admire it every day.

Just before spring, an unpredictable shift at work doubled my responsibilities. I waited. Still, no “attention all” memo, much to my disappointment. Then, another hospitalization. “Your dad has A-Fib and Congestive Heart Failure,” a sweet nurse told me as I tucked a fitted sheet around the thin cushion of the familiar convertible furniture, bought in bulk a decade before. “Think of his heart as a house,” she said. “He has issues with both the electrical and the plumbing.” Everything he knew and was doing would have to change. The house wasn’t just on fire, it was flooding, too, and everyone was burning and drowning, quietly, with artificial smiles plastered across our faces.

Sands through the hourglass

I was working more than ever before, searching for low-sodium recipes I thought Dad would eat and Mom would make between running the chicks around, meetings and writing. Then, one day, I looked up at my sheep of Ireland calendar, the blackface gals of March with their backsides painted pink hung above me. It was the end of August.

I had been living in a heightened state of response for so many days, stitched together with the thinnest thread, that when I tried to think back on the specifics of those weeks, I couldn’t grab anything tangible. I’d checked off hundreds of tasks, appointments, deadlines, only to have them vacuumed into some black hole, where all the hurried, tasteless, empty moments spent surviving over thriving go to die. 

I listened to a podcast a few months back about anticipatory grief. How, when we hear of a loved one’s terminal diagnosis, realize our parents’ health is failing, sense the demise of a relationship nearing, we protect ourselves by preparing for the death as early as possible. In this case, I thought we were going to lose Dad, then gratefully accepted that we weren’t, and then sobered up to the reality that we had, in fact, lost certain parts of him.

So, what is that … Griefus interruptus?

The physical trauma and chronic diagnosis only happened to one member of our family. And yet, to look at the dynamic overall, we’re like the letter-coated dice cradled in a freshly shaken Boggle board. We’re all still here, but shifted. We’ll probably never go back to exactly the way we were before. 

Processing and accepting that required a super-sized portion of self-preservation for this desperate soul. In the wake of Dad’s last hospital stay, with the appointments that immediately followed and the ever-lasting struggle to deliver caring but not condescending messages and the tireless grind of keeping my head above water, I turned toward anything that helped me rage against the changing of life as I’d known it. I started writing a novel. I purged my Instagram feed and did Amy Poehler’s Masterclass, which made me smile. I leaned hard into reading actual printed books and got lost in Ann Patchett essays, which made me smile and cry.

And then I ran into a friend who reminded me that this space exists. That this blog, like my sheep of Ireland calendar, was stuck somewhere in the “before Dad got sick” bucket.  For anyone who noticed, I can only offer this: 

Attention all: Life got really hard, heavy and scary there for awhile. I appreciate your patience during my absence, and your readership if your eyes are passing over these words now. As for Ireland, I cannot recommend it enough. I will cherish the views from the highest cliffs and summits, sweetness of the ciders, and warmth of the toasties and the people forever. Those ten days were a dream, spent with my favorite human. I don’t know how often I can meet you here, in this corner of the vast internet that we sometimes share, but I’m happy to be here now. And I promise not to let so much time go before we meet here again.

Wanderlust

Ireland adventure Day 7 – Galway and Connemara National Park

November 10, 2022

Please note: During our trip to Ireland, our priorities were hiking, the most beautiful scenery, pubs and live music. We also rented a car. You won’t find much in these posts about fine dining, shopping or the public transportation, though I’m confident there are great sites for these topics elsewhere online. I have also included some resources at the bottom if you’re planning a similar trip.

I slept so well that first night in Galway. I attribute a lot of that to the cool, familiar whisper of air conditioning streaming from the heavenly box above our bed. But before I fell asleep, I got sucked into the most amazing show. I had to research it once we got home, because I never caught the title, but for a closeted reality TV lover like myself, “Our Shirley Valentine Summer” was a true international treat.

I won’t go down the rabbit hole too far because, I know, Ireland, but the premise was this: Eight middle-aged British female celebrities were taken to Greece to live in a home together and find love. It was inspired by the film “Shirley Valentine,” which I’ve never seen, but is apparently about self-discovery and as far as I can tell, the reality series only got one season in 2018. Cuddled up with a slight buzz watching 40-, 50- and 60-somethings use dating apps and flirt with young locals against the turquoise Mediterranean backdrop was dessert without the crumbs.

We woke up and had breakfast at the hotel. Over a so-so continental spread, we decided the weather looked promising enough to tackle Diamond Hill, located an hour and a half drive away in Connemara National Park.

Ironically, the whole of Ireland is about the size of our home state, Indiana. In many ways, this took some pressure off, because we knew that we were a reasonable drive away from anything we wanted to see on any given day. And, motion sickness aside, some of the drives were the most memorable parts of the trip. I would say this was the case for our day in Connemara.

Just outside of Galway, we decided to pull over and get gas and snacks. There are very few things I would change about our trip, but the convenience store goodies were a huge missed opportunity for two trash pandas like us. Why did we wait so long to sample the Irish inventory? We really tried to make up for lost time. We grabbed crisps (potato chips) and drinks and a handful of candy bars. “Throw a Boost in there,” the cashier said, realizing what she had in front of her. And you know what, not to spoil the ending, but the Boost turned out to be my favorite.

Driving into the park was like entering a portrait. Towering, tiered peaks that would typically reflect back in glassy pools of water below them, on that day mingled with cotton ball clouds in various shades of porcelain, pearl and peppercorn. The road bent to the water’s perimeter and we followed its contours, finding something new to awe over after every curve.

We came to a small inlet with a service building down below and there were sheep grazing everywhere! Hank pulled over. He knew I had my traveler’s heart set on touching the wild wool coat of one of these cuties. I followed the dotted lines along the side of the road – one boot on the grass, one on the asphalt – and inched cautiously toward his (I assume it was a him) fleecy frame. Just as I got within arm’s reach, he trotted away, crying out a forceful baa to warn his buddies another crazy blonde American with a phone and an Instagram-influenced dream was in their midst. Mama still managed to snap a pretty sweet new profile pic though.   

We pulled into the parking lot and got our bearings. The trails were very clearly marked and easy to find. We FaceTimed the kids back home so they could see the donkeys, horses, cows and sheep hanging out at the foothill. Of course, I tried to pet another fluff ball, but he, too, evaded my fingertips.

When combined, the lower and upper Diamond Trails equal a 4.7-mile loop that reaches 1,348 feet in elevation and should take approximately 2 ½ hours. Simple enough, right?

Inviting stone steps take you up to the lower Diamond Trail at a clip that’s entirely manageable. I must have taken a hundred pictures of the horizon in the first half mile. A shelf of clouds was perched right at the peak of the tallest mountain in the distance, with gorgeous grassy valley interrupted only by lagoon blue pools.

The larger stones gave way to a path filled with small pebbles and then back to large patchy rocks. The entire hillside was punctuated by the chummy lavender petals we’d come to appreciate on these adventures. After climbing for some time, we stopped on a particularly soft patch of sod to grab a drink and get out of the wind. “Looks like there’s some weather moving in,” Hank said.

And while he isn’t a meteorologist by trade, the man was right on the money with this report.

When the first few drops of rain fell, for a split second, we thought about turning around and going back down the way we came. But we were so close to the summit. We thought. So, like the true wilderness idiots we are, we made the joint decision to push on. What an adventure this will be!

The first thing I noticed was the fog. (I should mention that I don’t have great vision on the clearest of days.) It was smokier than a college house party up there, and rolling in thicker and heavier with each gust of wind. And there were a lot of gusts to speak of. My cheeks were a magenta receipt of the unforgiving, aggressive bursts of dewy air thrashing against the only skin I had exposed.

Then the rain picked up.

Then the rocks got slippery.

A German couple caught up to us, scampering up the Jenga stones like third-round finalists on American Ninja Warrior. The woman was wearing jeans, old Sketchers and carrying her leather purse (a handbag, not a crossbody). I was practically crawling on my hands and knees in full hiking apparel. I let them pass me just below the summit.

I imagine that the view from the  top of Diamond Hill is majestic on a cloudless afternoon. For us, it was more of a triumph. We had made it! Alive! There were still views that moved me to pull out my phone, even at the very real risk of drowning the electrical innards, but the things that truly made that day so memorable were the adversity and the company. Even though I was chilled to my bones, I will always recall that afternoon with my guy with warmth and nostalgia. When I look at the photos I see a woman with the biggest smile on her face because she is awake and alive. And the adversity … I mean, that’s why you hike. It always seems impossible until you do it and then, after a few beers, a plate of nachos and a good sleep, you’re crazy ass wants to do it again. 

And I can’t forget the pure comedy that comes with that degree of saturation. When I tell you, friend, that we were wet, you can’t even begin to imagine. I could have jumped into the ocean, fully clothed, and wouldn’t have been as completely drenched as I was walking down from Diamond Hill. My toes had a pool party in inches of rain water at the tip of my boot, and I got to hear them celebrating with an unmistakable Squish! every single step I took. My pants, which were not technically waterproof, were suctioned so tightly to my skin I might as well have gone streaking.

My hair wet and curling, a steady stream pouring off the brim of my hat, we soldiered on until we reached the front of the park and I managed the hardest thing I had to do the entire 10 days we were away. I wrestled those suctioned non-hiking hiking pants down my blushing, frozen thighs so that I could go to the restroom. Talk about strenuous! It was time to wring out our shirts, dump out our boots and go get more snacks. 

If you thought I was kidding, I wasn’t. Same gas station. More crisps. More chocolate. We went back to our hotel and had room beers, Ireland convenience store refreshments and a seat on the floor so I could use the hair dryer on my base layers. 

An hour later, we popped our umbrellas and headed toward the main drag in Galway. We put our names in at The Quay Street Kitchen. It was a 25-minute wait so we wandered over to The Dew Drop Inn and ordered a few beers. One sip down, the restaurant called and had our table ready. I tried to chug, but didn’t make a dent. That pilsner was pushing back. 

Quay Street Kitchen was so cute and cozy. They had blankets and pillows available for guests and the tables were close together. Initially we were sitting next to an older couple visiting from Connecticut. Then they finished and two physicians, from Florida and New Jersey, respectively, took the table. We had a nice time visiting with both, which I can honestly say never happens in the United States. I got fish ‘n chips and a goat cheese and beetroot salad. It was all good, but that salad sent me on a 10-day-straight warm goat cheese streak after we got home. It was dreamy and creamy and rich. 

The main streets of Galway on a Friday night are … we’ll go with frisky. As two newly appointed quadragenarians, teetering the fine line between Millennials and Gen X, with three young girls, two full-time jobs and a C-Pap in tow, it’s safe to say we hung up our clubbin’ clothes many moons ago. Our party playlists are frozen somewhere around Usher’s “Yeah” and O.A.R. “Crazy Game of Poker” if that helps paint the picture. So when we came out of our lovely late dinner into the full weekend vibe of this lively Irish town, it was a tad jarring. Like time traveling back to spring break but with the bodies and mindset of PTA parents. 

First, we found a back table at Tig Coili. Supposedly someone was playing trad music toward the front but we couldn’t hear a thing. A super friendly local couple leaned over and asked us about our plans. Turned out, the gentleman worked for an orthopedic device company headquartered 45 minutes from our front door. The world is enormous and tiny all at once. 

Wanting to hear music, we stopped into a few other places but they were so crowded you couldn’t even get to the bar. Eventually, we ended up back at Kings Head, the same place we’d been the night before, and found a little two-seater table tucked in next to the bar. The cover band was playing greatest hits from the last few decades … you know, songs you’d find on our party playlist. 

Now, I realize that this next part is going to make me sound 87 years old, but walking back to the hotel was like being in Times Square at 12:02 a.m. on January 1. The youths were out in force, with material as thick as single-ply toilet paper covering just the very bottom of their buttcheeks. In Ireland, you can drink at 18, but I’m guessing the ID checking is fairly lax. Kids were lined up to get into clubs, glass breaking everywhere, pulling down their pants trying to pee in the street, falling onto the pavement. A girl was passed out in a doorway, while her girlfriend waved the ambulance over. It was sloppy. And the mother in me had a very hard time just walking by, but you got the sense that was the best thing to do. It wasn’t scary necessarily, but it was a mega hot mess on a chilly, drizzly evening, topped off by a couple … um … getting to know each other better in a shallow doorway on the street just down from our hotel. All signs pointed to time to take our old asses to bed.  

Just outside the elevator, a vending machine with a Chunky KitKat beckoned. We put our change in, pushed the buttons, the coil turned and the bar got stuck. I moaned. The concierge came around the corner, “What’s the trouble?” he asked, the charming Irish accent dripping off every syllable. I pointed to the cliff hanging candybar. He put one hand on each side of the machine. “Ya know whatcha gotta do here, is ya just gotta shake the fuck out of it.” And that’s exactly what he did. And wouldn’t ya know, two Chunky KitKats fell to the bin below. I doublefisted the sweet confections up to the third floor, put on the warmest jammies I had and turned in, that sweet, familiar whisper of air conditioning soothing my wind-worn cheeks. 

Quick reference details for those planning a trip to Ireland

Travel agent – We worked with Maria Lieb at Discovering Ireland. We were given her name by an acquaintance who took a very similar trip to ours. Maria helped us narrow down locations, the duration of our stay in each town, selected and booked all of our hotel and inn rooms, reserved our car and insurance, and provided travel guides. You can reach her by emailing maria@discoveringireland.com. 

Transportation – We opted to rent a car so we had flexibility each day. We did the full insurance, including tires, and rented the GPS navigation. In Ireland, compared to the United States, the steering wheel is on the other side of the car, and they drive on the other side of the road, which can be confusing, but you catch on. Also, be prepared … some of the roads are very narrow.

Dates of our trip – While most people go to Ireland in June, July and early August, we were there August 26 – September 5, in an effort to still get decent weather but avoid some of the crowds.

Weather – We were spoiled with the weather while we were there! Temperatures were typically mid- to low-70s during the day and the 60s at night. We only had rain two days.

Money – We primarily used our credit card, which was very easy. They will often ask you if you want to pay in euros or dollars. It’s best to select euros. We also used local ATM machines to get cash, which came in handy for cabs and snacks. In our experience, ATMs were better than exchanging currency at the airport.

Things I packed and didn’t need –

·  Hair straightener (couldn’t use in any of the outlets)

·  Jewelry (wore a necklace one night)

·  Jeans (heavy and unnecessary)

·  Big suitcase (I’ll pack smarter next time)

·  Makeup (nobody cared, and I barely used it)

Things I didn’t pack that I wish I had –

·  More of these functional pants from REI – (I also liked these)

·  My TEVA sandals (loving these right now)

·  Hiking poles

Things I was so glad I packed –

·  Versatile weatherproof pants (linked above)

·  Hats (I rarely did my hair)

·  A buff for my neck or wrist

·  Good hiking boots and trail shoes (I took these and loved them)

·  A light backpack for hiking

·  Crossbody purse (or hip bag) for evenings and days out

·  Sunglasses

·  Raincoat

·  Umbrella

·  Moisture-wicking layers (tanks, ts and long-sleeve)

·  Small bottles of hand sanitizer

·  Hair ties (my hair was in a pony or braided most days)

·  Good socks

·  Dramamine (If you get motion sickness, this is life in Ireland)

·  Notes app or a journal

·  Fitbit charger (we averaged 22k steps a day)

·  Phone charger

·  A mobile hotspot (we rented a wifi candy and picked ours up at the Dublin airport)

·  GPS

The flight – We flew out of Chicago, which is about two hours from our home. The hardest part was finding a place to park at O’Hare! We got there about three hours early and had plenty of time. The flight was direct to Dublin and took around seven hours – give or take – both ways. I thought Aer Lingus did a tremendous job of keeping everyone fed, comfortable and happy. Take a little something to help you sleep and you’ll be there before you know it! Our experience at the Dublin airport was incredibly positive. Quick and painless! 

Wanderlust

Ireland adventure Day 6 – Dingle, Dunquin Pier and Galway

October 13, 2022

Please note: During our trip to Ireland, our priorities were hiking, the most beautiful scenery, pubs and live music. We also rented a car. You won’t find much in these posts about fine dining, shopping or the public transportation, though I’m confident there are great resources for these topics elsewhere online. I have also included some resources at the bottom if you’re planning a similar trip.

I fell asleep and woke up around 1 a.m. Ireland time to Hank trying to talk one of the kids off the ledge back home. I consoled her a bit and tried to fall back asleep. Our room was warm and the unrest an ocean away was weighing on me. It was hard to get comfortable.  

We had breakfast at the inn again, a delicious Belgian waffle for me dressed to perfection in powdered sugar. Then it was time to pack up and head out. Our next official stop was Galway, which was bittersweet since it was our last destination before circling back to Dublin, the bookend to our dream vacation.  

From the time we started having serious discussions about Ireland, I began telling people we were going to Dingle. My boss mentioned it to me years ago and, I don’t know, I just loved to say it. Up until the day we left Indiana, I declared to all who would listen that we were going to Dingle, even though we had confirmation emails for the entire trip and none of them mentioned Dingle. Even though I couldn’t point Dingle out on a map. Even though the only thing I really knew about Dingle was that there was a place there that made sea salt ice cream. Even still, we were going to Dingle. So, on our way to Galway, we decided to actually go to Dingle.

The drive into the town is phenomenal. You’ve got your wildflowers, you’ve got your verdant patchwork valleys, you’ve got your roadways that snake alongside cliffs over cobalt blue water. It was a visual feast of the country’s scenic staples.

We parked by the harbor, which was under construction, but still cool. I’d done some Instagram searching and seen images of Dunquin Pier, which I assumed was there by the harbor. A woman sitting on a bench noticed we looked like lost little Hoosiers and asked if we wanted a picture. We thanked her kindly.

“Do you happen to know where Dunquin Pier is?” I asked.

As was the case with nearly every single Irishman and woman we met, she was a wealth of recommendations. She suggested we take Slea Head Drive, which looped out to Dunquin Pier and back around, with cute little cafes and all the views. Turns out, she was also from The States. “I came to visit Ireland six years ago,” she said, “and that was it! Now I split my time between my home in Colorado and here.” Talk about having each foot on a fresh slab of paradise! It reminded me of my friend, Kim, and her recent move to Portugal. Bravery is carving out the life of your dreams.

Since we were there, we walked around the town a bit. It was charming, with the colorful shops and cafes we’d come to expect, and a towering cathedral. We shipped some gifts home and putzed around.

Then we were onto the main event for the day – Dunquin Pier. I know I say every day was my favorite day, and every hike was special, but as far as views go, Dunquin Pier is in my top two for our entire visit. First of all, the drive there felt like getting dropped into a postcard. Perfect army and spring green camouflage pastures, the sun beaming down over the swaying grasses, peppy poppies peppered across the fields … and then you see the ocean.

As you approach, the mountains and pointed peaks present in the distance, erupting from the tranquil blue water beneath them. The closer you get, the more the indescribable beauty of the Wild Atlantic Way reveals itself. The closest thing to heaven on earth.

The western end of Slea Head is basically the Hollywood of Ireland. You probably know it. I might be one of three people on this planet who hasn’t seen Star Wars, but for those who covet the films, the scenery here should be familiar. It served as Luke Skywalker’s bachelor pad … or something like that. Don’t quote me. In addition to appearing in a galaxy far, far away, this is where they filmed the movie Far and Away, as well as Ryan’s Daughter.

To take it all in from above, I can only describe it as otherworldly. It was like nothing I’d seen before. I was transfixed by the tint of the water and the protruding natural pyramids, both close by and on the horizon.

We parked and walked down toward the path. The thing about cliffs is, you don’t know what’s below until you get right up to the edge. As I peered down over the grassy ledge, the view stole the air right out of my lungs. I sat down as close as I could without scaring myself and Facetimed my sister. Some sights are just too much to keep to yourself. If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it on here a thousand times, I can describe the cliffs of Ireland with every combination of adjectives there is, but you can’t understand until you’re perched on top of a worn ridge of earth, covered in beautiful moss and grasses, with the white seagulls swooping against the slate backdrop. Water crashing at the base. It is pure nirvana.

We took the winding path down by the shoreline. There was this pocket of light turquoise water with a single boat floating in it. Like it was staged to be September in an upcoming wall calendar.

We got brave and scampered down to some rocks below. I mean how often can you say you played at the base of a cliff in Ireland? The tide was down, and the bed of smooth stones were lovely hues of pink, blue, green and gray. I stepped into some deep ocean floor mush and fell. Hank was collecting Dunquin keepsakes for the kids and barely noticed.

I could have stayed there by that cliff with my husband forever. It was like the day we stepped into the ocean. Ireland brought me back to life, as dramatic as that reads. It helped me remember that adventure and exploring are the embers that fuel my passion for life. The air felt different. The sun was warmer. Everything sparked a sense of awe and I realized how long it had been since I’d stood in awe of anything. I love that feeling.  

How long is long enough to soak in something so magnanimous? What is the time limit on admiring Mother Nature’s masterpieces? When is it committed to memory? Imprinted on your brain and your heart? I don’t know if there’s ever enough time.

But we were hungry.

We climbed up from the cliff and drove on to Kruger’s Bar. I ordered a Carlsberg and goat cheese bruschetta drizzled in balsamic that checked every box. We sat outside with the jagged rocks out over the hillside. Sheep were talking and tempting me just over the fence. I could see why Luke Skywalker chose the area. Very serene and zen-inducing.

We dropped our bags at Harbour Hotel Galway around dinnertime and I gasped. Air conditioning! We had actual cool air blowing down from a heavenly box above the bed. I instantly loved this place.

It was just a short walk to town. I adore the ambiance in Irish cities at night. Flags draped between colorful buildings. Live music at every intersection. It’s so vibrant, and Galway was perhaps the liveliest of our stops yet.

We ducked into The Kings Head for dinner. I had the Seafood Chowder and Lobster and Chips, which was work! I hadn’t cracked into a crustacean in quite some time, and it showed. Hank was taken by the building’s history, which dated back to the 13th century. Of particular interest to my History major husband was the fireplace, which was built in 1612.

According to their website, “For over 400 years the fireplace in the Mayor’s House (Front Bar) has kept generations of Galwegians warm. The fireplace is dated 1612 and features an ornate ‘Marriage Stone’ which carries the Coats of Arms of the Bodkin, Martin and Ffrench families. History aside it’s a great place to lean against while enjoying a pint!” Which people were doing, in 2022, while we were there.

Once we were done eating, we went into the adjoining bar where a band was getting the crowd hype with some trad. I have to hand it to them. They were wearing wool sweaters in a packed bar with no air just thrashing their instruments. I would have needed an IV, at the very least. Listening to trad is an experience. There’s an energy that builds. First people clap, then the clapping gets faster, then there’s some hooting and eventually dancing. The crowd, as a cohesive ball of vitality, reaches a crescendo that just carries you away. When the song’s over, the balloon deflates, and it starts all over again. It’s so contagious.

We chatted on the short walk back to the hotel, passing people with half-gone lagers and pilsners in varying copper tones, in deep discussion. It was another beautiful night and I couldn’t wait to turn the air down, snuggle up and do it all again.  

Quick reference details for those planning a trip to Ireland

Travel agent – We worked with Maria Lieb at Discovering Ireland. We were given her name by an acquaintance who took a very similar trip to ours. Maria helped us narrow down locations, the duration of our stay in each town, selected and booked all of our hotel and inn rooms, reserved our car and insurance, and provided travel guides. You can reach her by emailing maria@discoveringireland.com

Transportation – We opted to rent a car so we had flexibility each day. We did the full insurance, including tires, and rented the GPS navigation. In Ireland, compared to the United States, the steering wheel is on the other side of the car, and they drive on the other side of the road, which can be confusing, but you catch on. Also, be prepared … some of the roads are very narrow.

Dates of our trip – While most people go to Ireland in June, July and early August, we were there August 26 – September 5, in an effort to still get decent weather but avoid some of the crowds.

Weather – We were spoiled with the weather while we were there! Temperatures were typically mid- to low-70s during the day and the 60s at night. We only had rain two days.

Money – We primarily used our credit card, which was very easy. They will often ask you if you want to pay in euros or dollars. It’s best to select euros. We also used local ATM machines to get cash, which came in handy for cabs and snacks. In our experience, ATMs were better than exchanging currency at the airport.

Things I packed and didn’t need –

  • Hair straightener (couldn’t use in any of the outlets)
  • Jewelry (wore a necklace one night)
  • Jeans (heavy and unnecessary)
  • Big suitcase (I’ll pack smarter next time)
  • Makeup (nobody cared, and I barely used it)

Things I didn’t pack that I wish I had –

Things I was so glad I packed –

  • Versatile weatherproof pants (linked above)
  • Hats (I rarely did my hair)
  • A buff for my neck or wrist
  • Good hiking boots and trail shoes (I took these and loved them)
  • A light backpack for hiking
  • Crossbody purse (or hip bag) for evenings and days out
  • Sunglasses
  • Raincoat
  • Umbrella
  • Moisture-wicking layers (tanks, ts and long-sleeve)
  • Small bottles of hand sanitizer
  • Hair ties (my hair was in a pony or braided most days)
  • Good socks
  • Dramamine (If you get motion sickness, this is life in Ireland)
  • Notes app or a journal
  • Fitbit charger (we averaged 22k steps a day)
  • Phone charger
  • A mobile hotspot (we rented a wifi candy and picked ours up at the Dublin airport)
  • GPS

The flight – We flew out of Chicago, which is about two hours from our home. The hardest part was finding a place to park at O’Hare! We got there about three hours early and had plenty of time. The flight was direct to Dublin and took around seven hours – give or take – both ways. I thought Aer Lingus did a tremendous job of keeping everyone fed, comfortable and happy. Take a little something to help you sleep and you’ll be there before you know it! Our experience at the Dublin airport was incredibly positive. Quick and painless! 

Wanderlust

Ireland adventure Day 5 – Killarney and Torc Mountain  

October 6, 2022

Please note: During our trip to Ireland, our priorities were hiking, the most beautiful scenery, pubs and live music. We also rented a car. You won’t find much in these posts about fine dining, shopping or the public transportation, though I’m confident there are great resources for these topics elsewhere online. I have also included some resources at the bottom if you’re planning a similar trip.

I had a rough night of sleep. My body was starting to reject the influx of cider and late nights. We had breakfast at the inn and went back to the room to start strategizing the day’s plan. I have to hand it to Hank. I’m a great traveler in the sense that I’m typically up for anything. But I’m total shit when it comes to logistics. Completely dead weight, in the navigation department.  

After consulting his AllTrails, Hank landed on a hike to the summit of Torc Mountain, inside Killarney National Park. It was another gift of a day, low 70s and sunny as a Trader Joe’s checkout gal. We started at the lower carpark so we could see the Torc Waterfall. The parking area was packed with tourist groups, joking with their guides and busmates.

There’s something so mesmerizing about waterfalls. The sound of the water rushing and crashing, the white, tattered ribbon weaving around in rambunctious rapids, the lush green filling cracks and spreading out over bedrock and boulders. Brave souls were climbing the falls for the perfect picture, but we didn’t linger long. We had a mountain to meet.

We came to a cement bridge over Owengarriff River with a smaller waterfall and called the girls to check in for the morning. They were just getting ready to leave for school and couldn’t hear us well over the surprisingly boisterous cascade beneath us. 

After crossing the bridge, we went left and followed Old Kenmare Road to Torc Summit Path. (Hikers’ note: You can shorten the route and bypass the falls by parking at the Upper Torc carpark if waterfalls aren’t your thang.)

The trailhead to the summit of Torc Mountain was across from a picturesque stone-speckled stream. The path, which winds back and forth along the side of the mountain, varies between large, mostly flat rocks and railroad ties cleverly covered in chicken wire to minimize slipping. I sent up some gratitude for that fencing on more than one occasion during both our ascent and descent.

Each turn offered a different view of the ghostly blue mountains in the distance, the undulating grassy hillsides peppered with the prettiest yellow and purple wildflowers, and crystal pools on the horizon. It was both a demonstration in cardiovascular endurance and a scenic slideshow, two of my favorite things … and then we reached the top.

The summit of Torc Mountain is at an elevation of 1,755 feet (though Hank had data to suggest it was closer to 1,900), and it’s only when you reach the top that you get the 360-degree view of the county’s splendor. It was every lyric from every song that ever made me cherish this planet. We met a lovely local woman who pointed out landmarks like the lake where Killarnieans like to swim, the tallest peak in the park and our hotel. People in Ireland have a pride in and love for their land. It was evident throughout the trip, and it was evident on the top of Torc Mountain.

The entire route was 5.75 miles, and took us about three hours, from carpark to carpark. If you don’t mind covering some ground, it’s a perfect place to spend an afternoon and offers a bit of everything in the landscape department – mossy, fairy woodlands, roaring falls, rolling mountainsides and babbling brooks. Asking for much more would just be greedy!

Red-cheeked and weak-legged, we went back into town to refill our tummy tanks. When we pulled into a paid lot, a sweet woman gave us her parking ticket with an hour left on it. (Have I mentioned how amazing the people were?) We popped over to K-Town Bar and Grill and shared an order of loaded fries. When something is really indulgent, we like to say, “It’s so dirty!” which basically means it’s sinful and satisfying in all the best ways. Those fries were so dirty and damn delicious.

We went to the hotel and showered before driving back to town for the night. On our way, we saw a group of people walking somberly down the street. A funeral procession came right by us. The deceased must have been a coach or soccer enthusiast, because the men (and one woman) walking in two lines in front of the hearse were wearing jerseys.

We parked in the same lot across from our afternoon snack, which is free after 6:30 p.m. We strolled along the streets browsing menus and keepsakes, and eventually ended up at Bricín Restaurant and Irish Craft Shop on High Street for dinner. The fare is generally traditional Irish dishes, and I can tell you they’ve got them figured out. This was another one of my favorite meals on our trip. I had the pan-fried fish special and grilled veggies. We split Deep Fried Camembert at the front and a pavlova at the end, which neither of us had had before. It was like a giant marshmallow sent from heaven. I don’t think it’s on their regular lineup, so the angels were on our side that night.

After checking out the craft shop, we walked along High Street until we heard music. It was the pipes of Donal Lucey that eventually called us into the blue neon glow of Corkerys Sports Bar. Donal did a lot of Ed Sheeran, some Harry Styles and Coldplay. He used a looping station with foot pedals to repeat different sections of the song, which is so entertaining to watch.

One of the many things I love about the bar culture in Ireland is how animated the guys get. They were belting out love songs at the tops of their lungs and hollering ballad requests. Donal did an amazing job taking it all in, throwing in some friendly banter and accepting compliments without breaking stride or missing a pedal push. A man would come back from the bathroom, located in a hallway beside the stage, and, still zipping his fly, give the artist a thumb’s up. “You’re doing great, lad.” The country is a [sometimes sloppy] celebration of beer and music and joy and I was there for all of it.

I thought people were staring at us until I realized there was a giant flat screen beside our table. The Liverpool home soccer game was on and believe me when I tell you that, when they scored the winning goal, that small pub just about came up off the ground.

As 11 p.m. approached, the bartender started encouraging everyone to go down to The Grand, the bar we’d been at the night before. We had a key to the front door of the hotel and decided to call it a night. We walked to the car, past men having deep conversations over smokes on the patio of a closed restaurant, and couples loose lipped from Guiness and Stonewell. I liked the city at night. I never felt unsafe. There was a slight chill in the dark and the sweet, sticky remnants of memories being made everywhere you looked. Killarney had been good to us.  

Quick reference details for those planning a trip to Ireland

Travel agent – We worked with Maria Lieb at Discovering Ireland. We were given her name by an acquaintance who took a very similar trip to ours. Maria helped us narrow down locations, the duration of our stay in each town, selected and booked all of our hotel and inn rooms, reserved our car and insurance, and provided travel guides. You can reach her by emailing maria@discoveringireland.com

Transportation – We opted to rent a car so we had flexibility each day. We did the full insurance, including tires, and rented the GPS navigation. In Ireland, compared to the United States, the steering wheel is on the other side of the car, and they drive on the other side of the road, which can be confusing, but you catch on. Also, be prepared … some of the roads are very narrow.

Dates of our trip – While most people go to Ireland in June, July and early August, we were there August 26 – September 5, in an effort to still get decent weather but avoid some of the crowds.

Weather – We were spoiled with the weather while we were there! Temperatures were typically mid- to low-70s during the day and the 60s at night. We only had rain two days.

Money – We primarily used our credit card, which was very easy. They will often ask you if you want to pay in euros or dollars. It’s best to select euros. We also used local ATM machines to get cash, which came in handy for cabs and snacks. In our experience, ATMs were better than exchanging currency at the airport.

Things I packed and didn’t need –

  • Hair straightener (couldn’t use in any of the outlets)
  • Jewelry (wore a necklace one night)
  • Jeans (heavy and unnecessary)
  • Big suitcase (I’ll pack smarter next time)
  • Makeup (nobody cared, and I barely used it)

Things I didn’t pack that I wish I had –

Things I was so glad I packed –

  • Versatile weatherproof pants (linked above)
  • Hats (I rarely did my hair)
  • A buff for my neck or wrist
  • Good hiking boots and trail shoes (I took these and loved them)
  • A light backpack for hiking
  • Crossbody purse (or hip bag) for evenings and days out
  • Sunglasses
  • Raincoat
  • Umbrella
  • Moisture-wicking layers (tanks, ts and long-sleeve)
  • Small bottles of hand sanitizer
  • Hair ties (my hair was in a pony or braided most days)
  • Good socks
  • Dramamine (If you get motion sickness, this is life in Ireland)
  • Notes app or a journal
  • Fitbit charger (we averaged 22k steps a day)
  • Phone charger
  • A mobile hotspot (we rented a wifi candy and picked ours up at the Dublin airport)
  • GPS

The flight – We flew out of Chicago, which is about two hours from our home. The hardest part was finding a place to park at O’Hare! We got there about three hours early and had plenty of time. The flight was direct to Dublin and took around seven hours – give or take – both ways. I thought Aer Lingus did a tremendous job of keeping everyone fed, comfortable and happy. Take a little something to help you sleep and you’ll be there before you know it! Our experience at the Dublin airport was incredibly positive. Quick and painless! 

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Ireland adventure Day 4 – Baltimore to Mizen Head to Killarney

October 2, 2022

Please note: During our trip to Ireland, our priorities were hiking, the most beautiful scenery, pubs and live music. We also rented a car. You won’t find much in these posts about fine dining, shopping or the public transportation, though I’m confident there are great resources for these topics elsewhere online. I have also included some resources at the bottom if you’re planning a similar trip.

I had another great night of sleep in our cozy second floor room at Rolf’s. It’s interesting, there aren’t any screens in the windows in Ireland, but I never saw any bugs. We had a perfect breeze, and everything was so comfortable. This was probably my favorite of all the places we stayed. We woke up, enjoyed another great breakfast in the restaurant and packed up to head to our next stop on the trip: Killarney.  

On our way, we decided to go see Mizen Head Signal Station (pronounced by locals with a short “i,” or with a ridiculous long “i” if you’re a silly American), the most southwesterly point in Ireland. We passed through cute towns like Skibbereen, with charming brightly colored buildings, and drove by land and seascapes that took my breath away. Particularly as you get closer to the point, the oceanfront scenes are exceptional. Of course, you endure a matrix of insanely narrow roads to get there, so as I’d say, “Oh my God, just look at that!” Hank would just smile out of the side of his mouth, his hands gripping at 10 and 2.

Our afternoon at Mizen Head is one I’ll never forget. People told us it was like the Cliffs of Moher on a smaller scale, and I would agree with that, but I would also say that the entire experience was closer … more humbling.

There are so many ramps and steps, that you can walk as much or as little as you like. We started by going out over the bridge toward the station. Suspended over water, Hank looked down and spotted a seal living his best life in the small inlet under the bridge, a long, playful body moving in a natural teal pool.

There were look out points pointing you toward jagged peninsulas, with the Wild Atlantic as far as the eye could see. I suppose some lucky folks have spotted whales off the shoreline. The wind pounded against my ears and lifted my hat as I put my life in the hands of an iron fence and ventured down the planks hovering in the air.

As we went the other way, down by the main cliffs, I was amazed at all of the intricacies layered into these shale and sandstone faces. Within the profiles of the cliffs, there are inlets and coves and caves for exploring. I stood at the closest point, with the sun riding the tops of the ocean’s ripples and tried to commit the scene to memory. A magnificent marbled silhouette, limbs outstretched into the diamond-studded water, trimmed in the lace of the waves connecting with ragtag earth. We were observing a poem in motion.

There is a café and nice gift shop on site. As we were leaving, a family was passing around a teapot at a picnic table overlooking the cliffs and it made me smile. We drove by a group of cows on the way out and Hank asked if I thought they knew what a great setup they had.

As we made our way back down the narrow roads that took us to the cliffs, Hank had a better view of the beaches. “We’re going down there,” he said. “We’re going to figure out how to get there and we’re getting in that water.”

And so, we did. We took a right over a one-lane bridge and parked at Barleycove. A short stroll down a boardwalk and over a floating bridge of plastic blocks, and our naked toes were pressing into the Ireland sand. 

I will tell you that there, on that beach with our pant legs rolled up and our shoes dangling from the crooks of our fingers, I felt parts of my spirit wake up. I felt more present, more connected, more in touch with this world than I have in years. I let myself get lost in the intoxicating spontaneity of it all and it felt like heaven soaked in salt water. I saw it in Hank, too. There were people bundled up, in wet suits, in bikinis … all grasping at the final feathers on the tails of Ireland’s warm season. The water was chilly and sensational, and if I could have bottled it all up, I would have.

We looked for a little pub in Goleen, but nothing was quite open yet. We grabbed lunch at Along the Way Café Goleen, two yummy pastrami sandwiches, and coffees and a piece of s’mores fudge to go. On our way to our car, we stopped into the visitor’s center, where a lovely woman told us the most scenic route to take to Killarney.  

I would be lying if I didn’t tell you there were moments when we, as a couple, doubted the instructions we were given, both by our friend in Goleen and the Polo’s GPS. We ended up on a less-than-one-car-wide lane through a nature preserve, kicking up rocks and dust. And then … without any warning at all, the route spit us out onto the top of the most beautiful valley I’d ever seen. The sun was shining down in streaks over the verdant green scene beside us. A sheep, escaped from the grass below, could have kissed our car as we passed. It was like coming out of the dark into a perfect panoramic portrait painted just for us, and we had no idea it was coming. I suppose no one can really prepare for beauty like that anyway.

We drove through three tunnels, came around a curve and pulled off at Molly Gallivans Cottage and Traditional Farm. This place was like stepping back in time. The second you get out of your car, under the watchful eye of a towering carved druid, you hear traditional Irish music echoing out over a rolling calendar-worthy hillscape.

The cottage is more than 200 years old. At one point, as a widowed woman with many mouths to feed, Molly turned it into an illegal pub. Eventually, she toned it down and started offering tired travelers tea and home cooking to make ends meet. According to the website, “Jeremiah Gallivan was the last of Molly’s descendants to live in the cottage. Jeremiah, a bachelor, farmed the land using the same traditional methods as his ancestors” until his death in 1997. If you saw the living quarters in this place, you would understand why I wanted to start that last sentence with, “Shockingly, …” Let’s just say I doubt Jeremiah was catching the latest Seinfeld when the rest of us were.

Molly’s has a surprisingly large shopping area, bathrooms and the most wonderful, sweet smoky smell. It’s worth the stop to catch your breath and soak up a little Neolithic vibe. If you are planning a visit, their website has more details about hikes, dining and shopping at the visitor’s center, so be sure to check it out.

We were riding a high as we drove into Killarney. Day 4 had been a feast for the eyes and the soul, Ireland was everything we could have dreamed it would be, the world was all pots of gold and rainbows and then … Bam! We almost died. I’m not even joking. Two older women turned right in front of us. Hank had to swerve and slam on the brakes and you guys, I’m telling you, that little VW Polo came through for us in a big way. Between his reaction time and that little car’s insane ability to stop on a dime, I lived to type these words. I needed new underwear, but I lived.

We were still a little shaken when we pulled into Loch Lein Country House after 5. Of all the places we stayed, this was probably one of the only ones I wouldn’t necessarily stay at if we went back. It was lovely, but if you like to walk, it’s just not convenient. Well, I guess that’s not really a good way to put it. It’s kind of perfect if you like to walk … far.

We cleaned up and did what we’d done in the other cities we’d been to, we decided to head out for dinner on foot. There was a place just up the road, but when we got there (after a roadside sheep spotting) it didn’t look very promising. “Let’s just keep walking toward town,” I said. Hank pulled out his phone to see what I was getting us into. While he had his face in the screen, my ankle rolled and Wham-o! I went down onto the gravel on the side of the road, cars driving by. I got up and clapped the dust off my hands. My husband didn’t miss a beat. (I’m a very graceful creature.)

The pads of my palms throbbing and peppered with pebble dents, we soldiered on. It was a not-so-brief 4km walk into town. Thankfully, Hank spotted a nature path across the street, and it made for a nice commute. We saw so many stags and an older couple told us they are all over the park. The wildlife certainly made the brisk walk go faster.

By the time we made it to the main strip in Killarney, our feet were screaming. We saw a cute place down an alley and went with it. Stonechat was yummy. Hank had Irish stew and I had fish and chips, of course, and an awesome strawberry lime cider. The host told us to go to Paddy Sheehan the Grand Bar and Niteclub for traditional Irish music, which is where I think they send everybody after the dinner hour.

There was a group playing traditional instruments and singing toward the front when we got there, so we sat at the modest ledge and small stools along the outside of the room. One thing you should know when you go to Ireland is that much like any venue in any town in any country, getting a table is a sport. A congenial sport, but still a sport. A table opened up and I moved in fast. A couple next to us leaned over and struck up a conversation, eventually joining us in our corner booth. They were from D.C. and going around Ireland for a few days before they headed to Scotland for a wedding and then wrapped up their trip in London. (They were actually there when the queen passed.)

A cover band came on at 11. I forgot how much I love a good cover band and a late night. There was a group of college-age students next to us, playing drinking games and dancing. Time is a funny thing. I can remember being that girl, clumsily moving toward the dance floor like a pinball on its way up to the top bumper. Stepping on strangers’ toes and flashing a drunken, crooked smile to imply it was all in good fun. Screaming every word to every song, which was my favorite song, every song. Dancing at the front, with new friends whose names I never quite got. It was both yesterday and a million years ago. We stayed until about 1 a.m. and caught a cab home, ears buzzing.

Quick reference details for those planning a trip to Ireland

Travel agent – We worked with Maria Lieb at Discovering Ireland. We were given her name by an acquaintance who took a very similar trip to ours. Maria helped us narrow down locations, the duration of our stay in each town, selected and booked all of our hotel and inn rooms, reserved our car and insurance, and provided travel guides. You can reach her by emailing maria@discoveringireland.com

Transportation – We opted to rent a car so we had flexibility each day. We did the full insurance, including tires, and rented the GPS navigation. In Ireland, compared to the United States, the steering wheel is on the other side of the car, and they drive on the other side of the road, which can be confusing, but you catch on. Also, be prepared … some of the roads are very narrow.

Dates of our trip – While most people go to Ireland in June, July and early August, we were there August 26 – September 5, in an effort to still get decent weather but avoid some of the crowds.

Weather – We were spoiled with the weather while we were there! Temperatures were typically mid- to low-70s during the day and the 60s at night. We only had rain two days.

Money – We primarily used our credit card, which was very easy. They will often ask you if you want to pay in euros or dollars. It’s best to select euros. We also used local ATM machines to get cash, which came in handy for cabs and snacks. In our experience, ATMs were better than exchanging currency at the airport.

Things I packed and didn’t need –

  • Hair straightener (couldn’t use in any of the outlets)
  • Jewelry (wore a necklace one night)
  • Jeans (heavy and unnecessary)
  • Big suitcase (I’ll pack smarter next time)
  • Makeup (nobody cared, and I barely used it)

Things I didn’t pack that I wish I had –

Things I was so glad I packed –

  • Versatile weatherproof pants (linked above)
  • Hats (I rarely did my hair)
  • A buff for my neck or wrist
  • Good hiking boots and trail shoes (I took these and loved them)
  • A light backpack for hiking
  • Crossbody purse (or hip bag) for evenings and days out
  • Sunglasses
  • Raincoat
  • Umbrella
  • Moisture-wicking layers (tanks, ts and long-sleeve)
  • Small bottles of hand sanitizer
  • Hair ties (my hair was in a pony or braided most days)
  • Good socks
  • Dramamine (If you get motion sickness, this is life in Ireland)
  • Notes app or a journal
  • Fitbit charger (we averaged 22k steps a day)
  • Phone charger
  • A mobile hotspot (we rented a wifi candy and picked ours up at the Dublin airport)
  • GPS

The flight – We flew out of Chicago, which is about two hours from our home. The hardest part was finding a place to park at O’Hare! We got there about three hours early and had plenty of time. The flight was direct to Dublin and took around seven hours – give or take – both ways. I thought Aer Lingus did a tremendous job of keeping everyone fed, comfortable and happy. Take a little something to help you sleep and you’ll be there before you know it! Our experience at the Dublin airport was incredibly positive. Quick and painless! 

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Ireland adventure Day 3 – Baltimore, Co. Cork and Sherkin Island

September 21, 2022

Please note: During our trip to Ireland, our priorities were hiking, the most beautiful scenery, pubs and live music. We also rented a car. You won’t find much in these posts about fine dining, shopping or the public transportation, though I’m confident there are great resources for these topics elsewhere online. I have also included some resources at the bottom if you’re planning a similar trip.

I woke up and felt like a new woman. It was the type of sleep where you don’t remember your dreams and you’re pretty certain you’re in the same position you fell asleep in. The Baltimore, Co. Cork air agreed with me. We went down to the restaurant for breakfast and slid into a cozy corner booth. Our table already had a tiered tower dressed in freshly baked breads and pastries, yogurt, cheese and homemade jam. I also ordered scrambled eggs and smoked salmon from the kitchen. The coffee was strong and welcome.

Based on my morning Google search, I discovered that whale watching is big in Baltimore. It was another gorgeous day, with sunny skies and a perfect breeze, so we decided to dress for an afternoon on the open ocean and head down to the harbor, which was wallpapered in posters for daily excursions. The first place we called wasn’t going out. The second didn’t have enough people. And the third said the swells were too dangerous.

There was a handful of people gathering around the area where the ferry came in. We learned that it was heading to Sherkin Island, and decided to hop on board, with no idea what was actually on Sherkin Island. Sometimes being a follower really pays off. (Please don’t tell my children I said that.)

Known to locals as The Island of the Arts, Sherkin is approximately three miles long and boasts a population of roughly 100 people. Also of note, it ended up being one of my absolute favorite places we went. It was a simple day, rich with simple pleasures, lots of steps and good conversation, and beauty everywhere you looked.  

When you get off the ferry, which basically just drives right up onto shore, you’re greeted by a mossy, stone and shell-covered beach. Everyone else just took off, like they knew exactly where they were going. But we, of course, had no agenda. Hank took a call, so I putzed around the beach for a while, picking up shells and smooth stones to take home to the girls. I loved all of the little limpets, or “boy nipples” as Hank called them, stuck to the sides of rocks.

We walked past the old friary and came to a fork in the road. A farmer, without much time for chitchat, told us to walk toward the beach and the café just beyond it, so we headed that way, down the one-lane road along a stone wall.

The first thing we came upon was the island library, where Sherkin Island resident and artist, Tina Reed, was hosting an exhibit. Her work was vibrant and textured and stunning. The walls were adorned with several pieces painted in Killarney (our next stop on our trip) and a number overlooking the ocean from the Sherkin Island shores. Tina, whose husband gives kayak tours around the island, agreed we should keep heading toward the beach and find the charming café by the water.

Tucked into hedges, tied to gates and secured into stonewalls, colorful tags with haiku poems are scattered all over the island. This is the handy work of The Sherkin Island Haiku Group, who has been meeting ever since 2013. There were too many to read them all, but here are two of my favorites:

When people said, “the beach,” it sounds silly, but we weren’t exactly sure what we were looking for. There were several areas that looked like they held varying depths of water throughout the year, and people could, technically, go sit next to these pools. And they were pretty. We kept walking, past lazy island dogs, rolling pastures and properties likely passed down through generations. And then, we came to the beach, and there was no mistaking it. When I tell you it was one of the most breath-taking sights I’ve ever seen, it’s an insulting understatement. I’ve never been privy to beauty like the points on this planet where the Atlantic meets the fractured fringe of Ireland and its supplementary islands. There’s just no describing it. You have to live it.

These were the first of several cliffs we would see during our time in the country, and you know what they say about your first time … You never forget it.

We walked straight down the rippled sand toward the water, like the tide was pulling us to it. It was unlike any beach I’d been on before. A football field of patterned sand sandwiched between dark, tiered cliffs, with a mountain out in the distance. I took a handful of videos but, when I watched them back later, I succumb to the reality that they just couldn’t convey the view.  

After a substantial period of standing in awe, we went back up the sand to the road. In just a few steps, we came upon a second beach and a cliff overlook. There were two tents in the grass near the road, and I joked about the gamble of stepping out for a midnight potty break in this precarious spot near the cliff. But what an amazing place to have your morning coffee.  

Tummy’s rumbling, we continued on to grab a bite at the café we’d heard so much about. Sherkin North Shore, located at the most southern point of Ireland’s Wild Atlantic Way, is a center offering lodging, meals and a creative space for group meetings and trainings. On the Monday we stopped by, the door was open, but no one was home.

We retraced our steps and, when we got back to the fork where we’d started, we went the other way and found The Jolly Roger. You could just smell the history in this dim pub. Short stools that didn’t even reach my knees scattered around sticky tables. Everything decked in a warm, blood red palette. We grabbed a pair of ham and cheese toasties, a Bulmer’s for me and beer for Hank and pulled a set of taller stools up to a barrel on the terrace, with the water in the distance. We let the wear of the walk soak in, talking about life and our kids, with red cheeks and the sun now burning our necks. It was here that Hank wrote his own haiku.

Sherkin Island treat.
Blisters on both of my feet.
Delicious toastie.   

Around 4 o’clock, we caught the ferry back to Baltimore and made the game day decision to do the short hike to Baltimore Beacon. The landmark is a cone-shaped “lighthouse” that actually doesn’t light up at all. Rather, it’s painted white as a warning for ships too close to the cliffs.

According to the website Atlas Obscura, “The beacon was constructed after the Irish Rebellion of 1798 at the orders of the British government. It was part of a whole system of lighthouses that peppered Ireland’s shores to form a coastal warning system.

The original lighthouse eventually fell into disrepair, so this current, conical version replaced it in the late 1840s. It’s become a beloved symbol of Baltimore, a small fishing village in County Cork. Locals call the weirdly shaped tower ‘Lot’s Wife,’ after the Biblical woman who was turned into a pillar of salt. Walking around the beacon rewards visitors with stunning views of both the green landscape and rolling sea.” So, there ya go.

It was 3.3 km from the Baltimore Pier to the beacon, and I can tell you, it was worth every step. Every day, we would say, it can’t get any prettier than this. And then, inevitably, it would. There were wildflowers everywhere, little pops of yellow and purple. When we got to the top, I was gob smacked. Across the way, you could see the cliffs on the outer perimeter of Sherkin Island. Look down, and you see that you are also perched on top of a cliff, with water that’s the most lovely, indescribable shade of blue flooding the space between the two.

I Facetimed my mom, who was going through some things at home, and shared the view with her, hoping it would make her smile. What’s amazing is, I don’t like heights. I have nightmares, often, right before I drift off to sleep, where I am falling, or one of my kids is falling. But there, I sat right on the edge of that cliff and felt more alive and less afraid than I ever have. I closed my eyes and listened to the waves and the birds. I felt the sun on my eyelids. I was so at peace.

I smiled the rest of the way back down. When we reached town, we grabbed a table in The Square overlooking the harbor and got menus from La Jolie Brise. We both got pizza and split some chips (French fries). Of course, more cider and beer. I will tell you that this meal did not blow me away, but the view as the sun set out over the water was everything.

A table of girlfriends were in my eye line, and I couldn’t help watching them. They reminded me of me and my friends at that age. Some things are universal, like the way the women in your life will always listen, get excited for you and laugh at the tough bits (particularly those related to the men in your life).  

We split a perfect warm apple tart before calling it a night and I felt so full of joy as we made the walk back up the slanted streets to Rolf’s.  

Quick reference details for those planning a trip to Ireland

Travel agent – We worked with Maria Lieb at Discovering Ireland. We were given her name by an acquaintance who took a very similar trip to ours. Maria helped us narrow down locations, the duration of our stay in each town, selected and booked all of our hotel and inn rooms, reserved our car and insurance, and provided travel guides. You can reach her by emailing maria@discoveringireland.com

Transportation – We opted to rent a car so we had flexibility each day. We did the full insurance, including tires, and rented the GPS navigation. In Ireland, compared to the United States, the steering wheel is on the other side of the car, and they drive on the other side of the road, which can be confusing, but you catch on. Also, be prepared … some of the roads are very narrow.

Dates of our trip – While most people go to Ireland in June, July and early August, we were there August 26 – September 5, in an effort to still get decent weather but avoid some of the crowds.

Weather – We were spoiled with the weather while we were there! Temperatures were typically mid- to low-70s during the day and the 60s at night. We only had rain two days.

Money – We primarily used our credit card, which was very easy. They will often ask you if you want to pay in euros or dollars. It’s best to select euros. We also used local ATM machines to get cash, which came in handy for cabs and snacks. In our experience, ATMs were better than exchanging currency at the airport.

Things I packed and didn’t need –

  • Hair straightener (couldn’t use in any of the outlets)
  • Jewelry (wore a necklace one night)
  • Jeans (heavy and unnecessary)
  • Big suitcase (I’ll pack smarter next time)
  • Makeup (nobody cared, and I barely used it)

Things I didn’t pack that I wish I had –

Things I was so glad I packed –

  • Versatile weatherproof pants (linked above)
  • Hats (I rarely did my hair)
  • A buff for my neck or wrist
  • Good hiking boots and trail shoes (I took these and loved them)
  • A light backpack for hiking
  • Crossbody purse (or hip bag) for evenings and days out
  • Sunglasses
  • Raincoat
  • Umbrella
  • Moisture-wicking layers (tanks, ts and long-sleeve)
  • Small bottles of hand sanitizer
  • Hair ties (my hair was in a pony or braided most days)
  • Good socks
  • Dramamine (If you get motion sickness, this is life in Ireland)
  • Notes app or a journal
  • Fitbit charger (we averaged 22k steps a day)
  • Phone charger
  • A mobile hotspot (we rented a wifi candy and picked ours up at the Dublin airport)
  • GPS

The flight – We flew out of Chicago, which is about two hours from our home. The hardest part was finding a place to park at O’Hare! We got there about three hours early and had plenty of time. The flight was direct to Dublin and took around seven hours – give or take – both ways. I thought Aer Lingus did a tremendous job of keeping everyone fed, comfortable and happy. Take a little something to help you sleep and you’ll be there before you know it! Our experience at the Dublin airport was incredibly positive. Quick and painless! 

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Ireland adventure Day 2 – Kilkenny to Blarney Castle to Baltimore, County Cork

September 15, 2022

Please note: During our trip to Ireland, our priorities were hiking, the most beautiful scenery, pubs and live music. We also rented a car. You won’t find much in these posts about fine dining, shopping or the public transportation, though I’m confident there are great resources for these topics elsewhere online. I have also included some resources at the bottom if you’re planning a similar trip.

Adequately rested after a marathon Day 1, we woke up around 8 a.m., ready to see where the day would take us. I’d read good things about a breakfast place called The Fig Tree, but it didn’t open for another two hours. Simply by default, and perhaps divine intervention, we ended up at Café la Coco.

I loved absolutely everything about this meal, from the pottery our food came in, to the immersive setting. We sat outside and took in the bustle of a Sunday morning in Kilkenny. Young workers moving trash from the night before into dumpsters locked away behind brightly colored sliding doors. Twenty-somethings in messy buns stumbling down for a quick coffee and pastry. Those a decade or two up walking the dogs, pushing a stroller, running errands.

We both ordered breakfast sandwiches and coffee, a latte for me and an Americano for my date. While ours were both equally delicious, I have to say, our neighbor had the Bacon and Maple Pancakes and they looked insanely good. I actually saw him running his finger around the bowl to lick it clean, which is quite the endorsement, universally. He was an older gentleman, a marathoner, from Northern Ireland. In fact, he can “see Scotland from his doorstep.” I know this because in Ireland, unlike many places, the charming countrymen and women love to strike up a conversation. In a last-minute stroke of genius, we ordered a blueberry lemon scone to go.

On our stroll back to the hotel to finish packing, we realized how nice it is to walk to and from a meal. In our town, it would be a real roll of the dice to commute on foot. But in most of the towns we visited, it was easy to hoof it, and it just felt great. I think we largely underestimate the benefits of a casual pre- and post-meal jaunt.

Kilkenny to Blarney Castle and Gardens

Before we left, Hank and I both agreed we would be perfectly fine with skipping the “touristy” attractions in order to leave more room for hiking and exploring. And we honestly didn’t intend to do the whole Blarney experience. But we did, and I gotta tell ya, it was pretty freaking cool.

Initially, we planned on going to a different area, but as we were driving and converting kilometers to miles, Hank realized it was going to put us at our hotel pretty late that evening. So, I picked up the trusty GPS and typed in the only name I recognized from the signs: Blarney. (Did I mention we didn’t really have a solid itinerary?) We’ll just take a quick look, since we’re here, we thought.

We purchased tickets and two ice cream comes and spent the next few hours walking around the majestic Blarney Gardens. The wait to kiss the stone was an hour long and, call me COVID-crazy, but I just didn’t have a burning desire to match lips with hundreds of my newest acquaintances, so we skipped it. But it didn’t take anything away from the experience.

The grounds have every type of tree you can imagine and tout some of the tallest in Ireland. There’s even a tree – a Western Red Cedar – that appears to have grown two new trees. (See picture for reference, it’s so hard to explain.) Everything is meticulous and vibrant, with names like the Carnivorous Courtyard and Poison Garden.

It was while poking around Blarney House, a historic residence on the grounds, when I thought I saw Daniel Radcliffe with another gentleman and two small children. This was on the heels of Hank thinking Paul Mescal from “Normal People” checked us into Hotel Kilkenny the night before. We were painfully wrong, on both accounts.

Of everything we saw, waterfalls and giant ferns and floral archways, my two favorite parts of Blarney Gardens were the Wishing Steps and the Seven Sisters, mostly because I just love a good legend. According to the sign, any believer with a wish in their heart who closes their eyes and walks first forward, then backward up the Wishing Steps will have their dream come true. I am notoriously clumsy with both eyes open, so I did not opt for the full immersion here, but I did watch a couple go through the ritual and it made me smile. And I’d be lying if I didn’t say I recited a little wish to myself as I ascended the ancient stairway.

The Seven Sisters story gave me goosebumps. Here is the version from the website: “Just northeast of the Castle can be found a circle of nine standing stones, two of which have fallen. It is said that in medieval times a chieftain who had two young sons and seven daughters took his sons on their first battle against a troublesome neighbour who was constantly raiding his cattle. The chieftain was victorious in the battle but at great cost: both his sons were killed. Returning to his cattle with his troops and the bodies of his sons, he stopped at this familiar spot and to mark the death of his sons the grieving chieftain ordered his men to knock over two of the stones.” 

As a mother, I mean … it just tears ya up. Even if it is just a circle of rocks. Overall, I would say the Blarney experience is worth the trip, particularly if the sun is shining and you’ve got good walking shoes.

Blarney Castle and Gardens to Baltimore, County Cork

It was roughly 90 minutes from the Blarney grounds to our destination for the evening, Baltimore, County Cork. Listen to me when I say that this was the longest 90 minutes of. my. life.

Allow me, if you will, to paint a picture for you … Imagine being strapped into a chair that is barreling along a hedge at 60 mph. Every once in a while, a box truck, or a van or a greedy compact car or, in the worst of worst-case scenarios, a semi, comes flying around a curve and you get to dip into the hedge and find out if there’s, say, a stonewall hiding behind the shrubs. Between the Polo’s hyper-sensitive brakes, my husband’s unscratched itch to be a racecar driver and my natural tendency to get sick as hell on anything that moves, it was a real ten-layer trifle of terrifying. My forearm started to spasm I was gripping the door handle so tight. The commute was gorgeous. Absolutely gut-wrenching. But gorgeous. But the true saving grace was that scone. Oh, that beautiful scone. When has a well-made pastry not been able to cure the woes of the world, I ask you?

Coming into Baltimore is what I imagine the coastal areas in New England are like, though I’ve never been. Boats tethered and spaced in the harbor, bobbing in the last minutes of the day’s sunlight. Streets that slant and build in activity until they crescendo down by the water, the main attraction.

We pulled into Rolf’s Country House & Restaurant around dinnertime. A pair of gentlemen helped us get our hefty suitcases up into our room (“Do you have Grandma in here?” one of them joked) and brought us crisps (potato chips) and prosecco, which made me instantly fall in love with them. This was by far my favorite of the places we stayed. Not just because they fed me carbs, but the rooms, of which there are only 10, are beautiful.

We downed our bubbles, showered and walked down toward the harbor to find dinner. There was live music close to the water, but nowhere to sit, so we backtracked a bit to The Algier’s Inn. Fate, again took a hand. This was one of my top meals for the whole trip. At the suggestion of our absolutely adorable waitress, I went for the fried fish sandwich and skinny fries, paired with a lovely local cider. I still have dreams about this sandwich. The fish was perfectly breaded and crispy, dressed in the yummiest sauce. Hank had a burger and a West Cork IPA, brewed by one of the only female brewers in Ireland (#girldad), who also happened to be helping out at Algier’s that very evening. (So, we did have at least one legitimate celebrity sighting.)

After three different servers professed their love for the Sticky Toffee Pudding, we basically had to give it a go, and it was delicious. After we said we were done, the same saint waitress who recommended the fish, demonstrated the proper way to scrape up the remaining gooey bits and lick the spoon clean. As Sticky Toffee virgins, we had no clue how dedicated this dessert fan base is. I’ve got nothin’ but respect for the bowl scrapers out there.

Full and happy, we walked back up the slanted streets to Rolf’s, on top of the hill. It got pretty dark in some spots, so we picked up the pace and burned off some pudding. I don’t know if it was all of the walking, or the jetlag finally catching up with me, or my satiated belly or, I’d like to think, the lovely breeze coming off the water and through our open window, but I slept like a baby that night. A fat, insanely joyful baby.

Quick reference details for those planning a trip to Ireland

Travel agent – We worked with Maria Lieb at Discovering Ireland. We were given her name by an acquaintance who took a very similar trip to ours. Maria helped us narrow down locations, the duration of our stay in each town, selected and booked all of our hotel and inn rooms, reserved our car and insurance, and provided travel guides. You can reach her by emailing maria@discoveringireland.com

Transportation – We opted to rent a car so we had flexibility each day. We did the full insurance, including tires, and rented the GPS navigation. In Ireland, compared to the United States, the steering wheel is on the other side of the car, and they drive on the other side of the road, which can be confusing, but you catch on. Also, be prepared … some of the roads are very narrow.

Dates of our trip – While most people go to Ireland in June, July and early August, we were there August 26 – September 5, in an effort to still get decent weather but avoid some of the crowds.

Weather – We were spoiled with the weather while we were there! Temperatures were typically mid- to low-70s during the day and the 60s at night. We only had rain two days.

Money – We primarily used our credit card, which was very easy. They will often ask you if you want to pay in euros or dollars. It’s best to select euros. We also used local ATM machines to get cash, which came in handy for cabs and snacks. In our experience, ATMs were better than exchanging currency at the airport.

Things I packed and didn’t need –

  • Hair straightener (couldn’t use in any of the outlets)
  • Jewelry (wore a necklace one night)
  • Jeans (heavy and unnecessary)
  • Big suitcase (I’ll pack smarter next time)
  • Makeup (nobody cared, and I barely used it)

Things I didn’t pack that I wish I had –

Things I was so glad I packed –

  • Versatile weatherproof pants (linked above)
  • Hats (I rarely did my hair)
  • A buff for my neck or wrist
  • Good hiking boots and trail shoes (I took these and loved them)
  • A light backpack for hiking
  • Crossbody purse (or hip bag) for evenings and days out
  • Sunglasses
  • Raincoat
  • Umbrella
  • Moisture-wicking layers (tanks, ts and long-sleeve)
  • Small bottles of hand sanitizer
  • Hair ties (my hair was in a pony or braided most days)
  • Good socks
  • Dramamine (If you get motion sickness, this is life in Ireland)
  • Notes app or a journal
  • Fitbit charger (we averaged 22k steps a day)
  • Phone charger
  • A mobile hotspot (we rented a wifi candy and picked ours up at the Dublin airport)
  • GPS

The flight – We flew out of Chicago, which is about two hours from our home. The hardest part was finding a place to park at O’Hare! We got there about three hours early and had plenty of time. The flight was direct to Dublin and took around seven hours – give or take – both ways. I thought Aer Lingus did a tremendous job of keeping everyone fed, comfortable and happy. Take a little something to help you sleep and you’ll be there before you know it! Our experience at the Dublin airport was incredibly positive. Quick and painless!